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The Pre-Birth Plan of The Fonz

29 Apr

Recently, I had the opportunity to hear Henry Winkler speak. For those unfamiliar with the name, Winkler played Arthur Fonzarelli (aka “The Fonz”) in the popular television show Happy Days, which was on the air here in the U.S. in the 1970s and 80s. Since then Winkler has gone on to star in, direct, and produce a variety of successful television shows and films.

Winkler spoke poignantly of his academic struggles early in life, when dyslexia made it difficult for him to learn. His parents, German immigrants, repeatedly called him dummer hund (dumb dog). Not surprisingly, he grew up believing he was stupid.

Although he’s experienced extraordinary success in television and film, Winkler said that his greatest accomplishment is a series of best-selling children’s books about Hank Zipzer, a fictional boy who also has dyslexia. With titles like Everybody is Somebody, the books have inspired countless children to believe in and value themselves and countless parents to believe in and value their children – regardless of their level of academic success.

As I listened to Winkler speak, it became clear to me that he had beautifully and magnificently fulfilled his pre-birth plan. Before we are born, each of us chooses a mission, some area of life on Earth that is important to us and in which we want to make a positive impact. I envisioned Winkler in his pre-birth planning session telling his guides, “I want to empower children who have learning disabilities. I want to help these children – and all children – know their inherent worth. And I want to help their parents know it, too.”

Having selected that mission, Winkler would then have planned to enter the very vibration he so wanted to change. Service to others – which is part of literally every pre-birth plan I have ever examined – is particularly powerful when we ourselves enter and experience a certain vibration and then transform it from within. I could hear Winkler’s guides saying, “One possibility is for you to have dyslexia and parents who shame you for it. If you can rise above the vibration of shame and come to know your worth, you will then offer that higher vibration, that wisdom, to others.”

At that point, Winkler would have gone to the two souls he wanted to be his parents and asked them to be part of his plan. “I want to empower and uplift children who have learning disabilities and their parents. I choose to experience dyslexia, as it will give me the opportunity and motivation to accomplish my mission. I ask that you shame me as a child for my inability to learn. My intention is to rise above the shame, heal it within myself, and then find an inspiring way to offer such healing and upliftment to others.”

The two souls approached by Winkler would likely be souls with whom he had shared many incarnations and with whom there was already great love. I could hear them responding, “Though it will be difficult for us, out of our great love for you we will play this role. We will speak the words that will drive you within, where you will discover your value as an expression of the Divine. We love you, and we agree to play the role you have requested.”

Winkler ended his talk by saying, “Thank you for listening to me, because my parents never did.” I suspect that his very natural and understandable human perspective will be replaced by a very different one when he returns to the other side and remembers just how well his parents did listen to him.

The Healing Power of Acceptance

22 Oct

What do spiritual awakening, miscarriage, abortion, caregiving, having pets, abusive relationships, sexual orientation, adoption, poverty, suicide, and mental illness have in common? The answer is that all of them can be part of a life plan created by our souls before we are born.

Working with a team of mediums and channels, I explore the pre-birth planning of these and other life circumstances and experiences in my second book, Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born. In the sessions with the mediums and channels, we talk with people’s higher selves and spirit guides, “deceased” loved ones, and enlightened beings about the spiritual meaning and purpose of the major challenges we encounter in a life on Earth. Equally important, we discuss how one heals from painful experiences – and indeed, how the soul utilizes such experiences to catalyze healing.

How and why, then, do painful and even traumatic experiences come to be part of a pre-birth plan? Let’s discuss one way in which such experiences occur.

Almost all of us have had past lives in which we developed beliefs or feelings about ourselves that the soul knows to be untrue and therefore wishes to heal. Two of the most common false beliefs or feelings are that one is powerless and that one is unworthy or perhaps even worthless. A basic spiritual tenet is that there is no unexpressed consciousness. So, if either of these beliefs or feelings is within your consciousness, regardless of whether it is at the conscious, subconscious, or unconscious level, it will manifest in your life, sometimes in the form of a traumatic experience.

From our human vantage point, this may seem harsh or punitive. The Universe’s intention, however, is to mirror you to you so that any aspects of self that are in need of healing will be brought into the light of greater awareness, where you may then set about healing them. This is one of the fundamental purposes served by life in a physical dimension.

At the most basic level, the pre-birth contract is the same for everyone: embrace and transmute all discordant (unloving) energies, including beliefs or feelings that are untrue (and thus unloving) toward self. Energies we have not transmuted from any life will come to us in this life so that we may do so.

We all requested this opportunity before we were born; indeed, it was a prerequisite for birth into the physical realm at this time. This lifetime is therefore of primary importance in the cosmic calendar. We are here to integrate into the whole of our Being and in so doing heal the remnants of all unintegrated energies from all our lives, both physical and nonphysical.

When we resist any aspect of life, we resist healing, too. When there is a block in one direction, there is a block in every direction. Ultimately, then, the purpose of every life challenge is the same: to grant us the opportunity to embrace that which we have so far resisted. As well, every life challenge is healed in the same way: through an increase in the vibration of what we think, say, and do.

Our experience of life is not determined by our life plan but rather by how we respond to that plan. Our responses—our thoughts, words, and actions in every moment—create our experience and potentially our healing. As we heal and learn life’s underlying lessons in a conscious manner, challenges that were planned as potentials in our lives either never manifest or occur in a more gentle form.

It is here that an awareness of pre-birth planning is profoundly helpful and healing. When we understand that our souls planned our lives, then we know there is deep meaning and purpose to all that occurs. When we know there is deep meaning and purpose to all that occurs, it becomes infinitely easier for us to think, speak, and act in loving ways.

As we respond to life in loving ways, our previous resistance becomes acceptance, our acceptance turns into receptivity, our receptivity grows into embrace, and our embrace is transformed into gratitude for the experiences that open our hearts and expand us as souls.

You have embodied on Earth at this time to heal by awakening consciously to the memory of yourself as soul. Your healing comes and is completed when you see the light of your soul and know that light to be who you truly are.