Suicide and Pre-birth Planning

In the Suicide chapter in my second book Your Soul’s Gift, I share the story of Carolyn, whose only child Cameron suicided shortly after he graduated from high school. Carolyn and I had a channeling session in which we spoke with Jeshua (Jesus). Jeshua began by telling us that suicide is never planned prior to birth as a certainty, but it is planned as a possibility or sometimes as a high probability, as was the case with Cameron. In other words, Cameron knew that he was taking on so much in this lifetime that a suicide was likely. He was willing to take that risk, and his loved ones agreed before birth to accept that risk as well.

One of the difficulties Cameron had while he in body was that chronic depression blocked his capacity to feel his love for his family. Jeshua tells us:

“While physically alive he could not feel his love for them anymore. When dead he realized the full extent of his love, and from the soul’s perspective this was a great breakthrough. The suicide forced change upon Cameron, and in his case it worked out well. It was a turning point for his soul.”

This is a radical yet powerfully healing perspective. Our society views suicide as perhaps the ultimate failure, and yet Jeshua tells us that from the soul’s perspective it can be a blessing. As souls our highest intention is to give and receive love. While in body Cameron was unable to feel, and therefore unable to express, the great love he held in his heart for his family. Now, in the nonphysical realm, he feels that love intensely, and for his soul that feeling is a triumph.

In addition to viewing suicide as a failure, we also tend to see it as a sin. Yet in the conversation with Carolyn, Jeshua tells us:

“From a spiritual perspective, there are no acts that are absolutely wrong or sinful. The deepest act of self-betrayal can lead someone into a state of inner clarity that may help forever. The darkest point may become the starting point for a new direction toward light. You see, spiritual evolution does not proceed in a linear fashion. It uses the polarities of light and dark to create dynamics and change.

In saying this I wish to take away the traditional judgment about suicide, that it is the gravest sin. God or Spirit does not feel that way. God has the greatest compassion for people who take their lives in despair. There is always help available for them on the other side. They are never abandoned.”

In the channeling session, we also spoke directly with Cameron, who confirmed that indeed he was not abandoned. Upon returning to spirit, he was greeted by loving guides, who nurtured and supported him through a process of emotional healing and through some very difficult conversations with Carolyn which occurred in her sleep state. Importantly, and contrary to what some religions teach, Cameron told us that he was never punished in any way for having taken his life. He did not go to some sort of “Hell,” nor did he wander endlessly in a limbo state. Instead, he briefly experienced some confusion and disorientation when he first crossed over (as he had been confused and disoriented when he suicided), but he quickly saw his guides, who escorted him “Home.”

And what of Carolyn’s healing? Since Carolyn has no memory of her pre-birth plan – just as most of us don’t – she quite naturally felt that she had failed Cameron. She was filled with guilt and self-blame, wondering what she could have done to prevent her son’s suicide. In response to those feelings, Jeshua shares with us one of the most important, startling, and powerful pieces of information I’ve come across in my research. He tells us, “Every suicide preventable by outside forces was indeed prevented.” What he means is that if the suicidal person has the slightest openness to changing their mind, the Universe knows, and the Universe stages an intervention. It could be something as simple as a bird flying by and distracting the person, or something as dramatic as an angel assuming human form and physically interceding. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, know this: There was literally nothing you could have done to save them.

You are not to blame.

You are not at fault.

You did not fail them.

Therein rests your healing. Therein lies your peace.

The Pre-Birth Plan of The Fonz

Recently, I had the opportunity to hear Henry Winkler speak. For those unfamiliar with the name, Winkler played Arthur Fonzarelli (aka “The Fonz”) in the popular television show Happy Days, which was on the air here in the U.S. in the 1970s and 80s. Since then Winkler has gone on to star in, direct, and produce a variety of successful television shows and films.

Winkler spoke poignantly of his academic struggles early in life, when dyslexia made it difficult for him to learn. His parents, German immigrants, repeatedly called him dummer hund (dumb dog). Not surprisingly, he grew up believing he was stupid.

Although he’s experienced extraordinary success in television and film, Winkler said that his greatest accomplishment is a series of best-selling children’s books about Hank Zipzer, a fictional boy who also has dyslexia. With titles like Everybody is Somebody, the books have inspired countless children to believe in and value themselves and countless parents to believe in and value their children – regardless of their level of academic success.

As I listened to Winkler speak, it became clear to me that he had beautifully and magnificently fulfilled his pre-birth plan. Before we are born, each of us chooses a mission, some area of life on Earth that is important to us and in which we want to make a positive impact. I envisioned Winkler in his pre-birth planning session telling his guides, “I want to empower children who have learning disabilities. I want to help these children – and all children – know their inherent worth. And I want to help their parents know it, too.”

Having selected that mission, Winkler would then have planned to enter the very vibration he so wanted to change. Service to others – which is part of literally every pre-birth plan I have ever examined – is particularly powerful when we ourselves enter and experience a certain vibration and then transform it from within. I could hear Winkler’s guides saying, “One possibility is for you to have dyslexia and parents who shame you for it. If you can rise above the vibration of shame and come to know your worth, you will then offer that higher vibration, that wisdom, to others.”

At that point, Winkler would have gone to the two souls he wanted to be his parents and asked them to be part of his plan. “I want to empower and uplift children who have learning disabilities and their parents. I choose to experience dyslexia, as it will give me the opportunity and motivation to accomplish my mission. I ask that you shame me as a child for my inability to learn. My intention is to rise above the shame, heal it within myself, and then find an inspiring way to offer such healing and upliftment to others.”

The two souls approached by Winkler would likely be souls with whom he had shared many incarnations and with whom there was already great love. I could hear them responding, “Though it will be difficult for us, out of our great love for you we will play this role. We will speak the words that will drive you within, where you will discover your value as an expression of the Divine. We love you, and we agree to play the role you have requested.”

Winkler ended his talk by saying, “Thank you for listening to me, because my parents never did.” I suspect that his very natural and understandable human perspective will be replaced by a very different one when he returns to the other side and remembers just how well his parents did listen to him.

Remembering Your Life Plan

I’d like to share with you a beautiful and inspiring email I received recently from An, who came into a Knowing of one aspect of her pre-birth plan. An writes:

“Hi Robert, I have read both your books, and and your writings have truly resonated deep within my soul. I was drawn and guided to your work after a near death experience in May of 2014. It was such a strange experience, and I am still healing from it now.

“To give you a brief account, I was riding my bike and making a right turn at a very busy intersection in Montreal when I was run over by the four back wheels of an eighteen-wheeler carrying a 1-ton crane. Right when it was all happening I felt strangely calm. I knew it was unavoidable and relaxed into it (rather than tensing up, which would have killed me) and also invoked an emergency Reiki symbol that called in the energies of angels and ascendant masters to help me. I am an energy healer and very spiritual so I definitely had the tools to deal with this!

“After getting run over I never lost consciousness but instead stayed with the pain, meditating into it while everyone around me panicked, to the point that during the ride in the ambulance, I had to tell the paramedic watching over me to calm down. He was yelling my name to keep me “awake” because I had my eyes shut in meditation. I opened my eyes and told him to “please be quiet” as I was meditating and I squeezed his hand to let him know I was okay. I only lost consciousness when I reached the ER when they injected me with ketamine.

“When I finally woke up a day and a half later, after an 11-hour operation where I had 40 Reiki masters from around the world giving me distance Reiki, the first thing I felt (and it was such a deep knowing) was that I had planned it all. So many strange details about my accident make me certain that this was planned and that this accident was much bigger than me on so many levels.

“My recovery was miraculous to say the least… basically after 4 operations, I escaped with no spinal, organ or brain damage! They also told me they weren’t sure when I would walk again, but I began walking after 3 weeks. They told me I would be in the hospital for 6 months, but I was discharged to a convalescence after 5 weeks. I continued rehab at a special hospital but was able to go home only three months after the accident. I had a physiotherapist look at my x-rays and marvel at how strange it was that despite the weight of the truck that should have shattered my bones, only the outer bones were broken, as if something had protected the inner parts from being damaged. I had another physiotherapist who had been working for 40 years tell me that I was the most miraculous case he had ever worked on.

“The accident itself was extremely public, it occurred at one of the busiest intersections in downtown Montreal. And that day was also very different in that there was an event/protest happening, so the streets were full of people, including media, police and first response (so that the reaction after my accident was instantaneous). (A bizarre side note: one of my friends was three cars ahead of the accident in his own car and saw it happening and only realized it was me when he saw it on the news, I then ended up in the same rehab facility as his grandma, so he was able to visit us both at the same time lol). I also locked eyes with the police officer that came to my aid right before and as it was happening. I think the hardest part for me was seeing the terror and trauma in everyone as it was happening. I weirdly felt so much sadness in my heart feeling all that pain.

“Eventually though, I realized that everyone who was supposed to be there and the trauma we all experience was a part of a healing on a bigger scale.

“After the accident there was a lot of media coverage about bicycle safety and there was another protest planned on my behalf in solidarity for me at the site of the accident. A group of cyclists even staged a “die-in.” I was very touched, to say the least.

“I feel deeply that this accident was beyond me and happened not just for me to learn and grow as a soul, but was also meant as a huge activation and paradigm shift for everyone involved and the collective as a whole.”

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Thank you, An, for sharing your poignant story with me and the readers of this newsletter.

I’m often asked, “How can I know if I planned a particular experience before I was born?” As A Course in Miracles tells us, “perception requires the right instrument.” Trying to perceive spiritual truths with the mind is like trying to perceive weight with a thermometer or temperature with a bathroom scale: it’s the wrong instrument. What is the right instrument? The heart. Simply, and as An shows us so beautifully, the heart.